Will you always be my brother?September 3rd, 2008 by Jill
Dale: [whispers] “Hey, are you awake?” As we all know..the movie Stepbrothers is out and is probably one of the funniest renditions of true “STEP” brothers. Is this true of all siblings? For the last two days, Connor has been “punking” Jack. On Monday, he chose to push him in the pool. Why? “Because he wasn’t going fast enough.” Connor sat out in a time out. Monday night, Connor was walking out of the bathroom, and pushed Jack out of the way. Why? “I didn’t mean too, he was just in the way.” This morning, Jack asked Connor what shoes is was wearing to school, and Connor grumbled…”My old ones,” attached with a push. I looked at Connor in PURE amazement, “What are you doing?” I had only one word. “PUNK.” And Connor isn’t a “punk,” but he is very quiet with his expressions (including the bad ones). Jack then came to the table for breakfast. He ran fast to go to the bathroom and ran back. I asked, “Did you flush and wash your hands?” “Yes, mommy I did.” I asked, “Are you sure?” While in the middle of asking, “Are you sure,” Connor chimes in…”I didn’t hear it Jaaacckkkkk.” Trying to get Jack in trouble AGAIN? So, I again asked Connor, “What are you doing???” “I don’t know” was his reply. When both boys came to breakfast, I explained that they are brothers and they need to be nice to one another. I also explained that at some point in life if Connor or Jack are constantly mean to one another, maybe they won’t have each other’s back when they need it. And maybe at one point, they may not even like each other. Connor sat quiet. Jack asked, “Will Connor always be my brother?” “Yes, Jack, Connor will always be your brother.” When I explained they may not like each other, Jack looked and me and said, “Mommy, I may not like how Connor treats me, but I will always LIKE Connor.” He looks over at Connor, “Right, Connor? Don’t you feel the same?” Under his breath, Connor says, “Yeah…” I’ll tell you what….I felt like my Dad this morning. Growing up, my dad always told me that “before he died,” he wanted to make sure that all of us sisters took care of one another…ALWAYS. He couldn’t bare the thought of dying and knowing we all didn’t love one another. BUT you know what is different with me than my Dad? Yes, it would break my heart if the boys didn’t grow up loving each other…but you know what? It’s out of my control. They have to want to love each other, and respect and have each other’s back. All of this is normal sibling day to day life. But, I can’t say I always like it. I feel protective of them both and want them both treated well and loved by one another. Could it be the older brother to the younger brother? For me, I don’t know. I don’t remember being SOOO mean to my younger sister’s? Maybe there is a difference in girls versus boys? I guess I will learn as I go. Although I cannot control the end result for the boys, I can give them the opportunity to “learn” the importance of a sibling. Neither Jack or Connor has a sibling at their respective other homes. You would think they would embrace the time together? We always joke….”We can just switch days and then you guys won’t ever see each other.” Sounds harsh….but I’ll tell you what….it makes them step back and appreciate what they have. I love my siblings and wouldn’t change anything. Life is about sharing, caring and respecting others around us (especially with your sibling). No one ever gets in the way of your brother or sister. (At least that is how I am with my sisters). A tight bond between two boys (brothers) should last forever…whether step, half or full. “Sometimes being a brother is even better than being a superhero.” ~Marc Brown
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