Nirvana Mommas

Hi Shelly and Jill,

I just read the article in the Sac Bee and was really impressed that
someone is finally getting the message out that you can have happy and
healthy blended families! My ex-husband and I divorced fifteen years
ago when our daughter was 10. We both agreed that she was far more
important than either of our egos or disagreements. We continued to
share holidays, birthdays, family events and even the occasional
vacation. We never put our daughter in the position of having to
“choose” between Mom or Dad. Believe me fifteen years ago that was
pretty much unheard of! We were very lucky that we had tremendous
family support on both sides and each of us remained close with the
others families. My ex-husband has not remarried but I did ten years
ago. My present husband understood from day one how our family worked
and accepted it from the beginning. Much like the two of you, they have
become very good friends.  We all took our daughter to Europe together
for her first time. Both Dad’s were on hand taking her to college and
both Dad’s will be walking her down the aisle in 2010 when she marries
her fiance. We have all benefited from this relationship but mostly of
course our daughter has. I’m am proud to say she just completed her 2nd
year of Medical school and is engaged to a wonderful man who shares our
strong sense of family values.

Thank you so much for sharing your story and getting the word out that
the kids really can come first and ex-spouses and new spouses can
really be friends!

Kathi
Granite Bay