Nirvana Mommas

I have a young child.   I have tried to explain the importance of co-parenting to my ex-husband who has a girlfriend who is being very difficult. She seems to be very insecure. How do you get through to people like her?

We only have complete control over our own reactions and behaviors. Wouldn’t it be easy if we dictated how everyone behaved around us?  That’s obviously unrealistic! Since we only control our own communications, we always tell women like us to be mature and respectful at all times (even when the favor is not returned). We understand this takes swallowing some pride and suppressing that ego. But, you will be setting the precedent for future interactions - and setting a great example for your child. Be the bigger person.

We also tell people to pick-up the phone and call the other woman in their life.  Even invite her to coffee if you know you can have a reasonable conversation. When the needs of a child are involved, we should always remember: It’s Not About Us - It’s About the Kids. Focus conversations on the needs of the child and ask the other woman for help in ensuring consistency in the child’s schedule and environment.  When extending the olive branch and asking for her help, you may be surprised at her willingness to grab it.